Let’s explore the notion of being a passive participant in your own life in some more detail. Being a passive participant means allowing the events in your life to be influenced by other people’s ideas and opinions of what good or bad, success or failure looks like. It’s allowing yourself to be overly influenced by external factors, letting the words and actions of others dictate how you think and feel about yourself. It’s allowing yourself to feel drained or energised in accordance to the type of energy that others emit in your space instead of your state being determined by your own energy. Most dangerously, it means you are susceptible to letting the thoughts and actions of others determine whether or not you think you are good enough. Instead of referring to and trusting yourself for this assessment and validation.
This passive state is a state that many of us live in today. Externally your life looks fine, you are cruising along reasonably well and there hasn’t been a life crisis to motivate a change of gear. There is nothing to suggest, by appearances, that all is not quite as it should be. Nonetheless, underneath it all you have a nagging thought that you want or need more out of life. Yet you can’t seem to figure out what that missing part is. Sound familiar?
If this resonates with you, read on and take comfort in the fact that you are not alone in feeling this way.
It is a common way of being, feeling like things are not going as well as they could be coupled with a sense of a lack of enthusiasm about our daily activities. It’s a feeling of not being tuned in to all that is wonderful around you. And not feeling switched on or filled with the curiosity and the energy to live life to its fullest. Oftentimes the overriding feeling is one of want or need and waiting for an external event to happen to bring happiness. This is symptomatic of a poverty of spirit caused through self neglect which is exacerbated when you have lost touch with your true self.
Next time we will discuss how to reconnect with and recognise your true self!